Comments on: We Need More Community, not Accountability

By: Catching Relationship Problems Early

Catching Relationship Problems Early — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:22:09 +0000

GR8 Ideas, I never saw it like that before, do you have more relationship blogs about this?

By: Luke Gilkerson

Luke Gilkerson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:28:32 +0000

Right on! The Bible encourages us to meet together often as believers, to have rich face-to-face relationships, to confess our struggles, to motivate one another to love and good deeds, to help one another to unearth our deepest sins, and to encourage one another to set our hope fully on Christ. This is far more than accountability:

http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2009/09/24/disci...

By: How to Forge Authentic Community with Other Men | Reflections of a Ragamuffin

Mon, 02 Nov 2009 23:35:14 +0000

[...] I vividly remember the day I stumbled upon The Sojourner’s Blog, the personal blog of author and life-coach Michael Warden. As I read his writing, something began to stir deep inside of me. I made contact with Michael and immediately signed up for his 8-week course for men called The Braveheart Intensive. It was during this course that I began to learn to speak the language of the heart and to connect genuinely and authentically with other men. Since Michael has taught me much about living in a larger story and why connecting at the heart-level with other men is so vitally important, I asked him to write a guest post as a follow up to my earlier post on accountability. [...]

By: Traylor Lovvorn

Traylor Lovvorn — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:32:31 +0000

Thanks, Larry! Please pass it along to others.

By: @fischerls

@fischerls — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:04:24 +0000

Thanks Tray!, good post.

By: Jonathan McIntosh

Jonathan McIntosh — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:21:27 +0000

Thanks Traylor. Very helpful.

By: Traylor Lovvorn

Traylor Lovvorn — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 03:20:25 +0000

Absolutely, GG! What about you?

By: Traylor Lovvorn

Traylor Lovvorn — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 03:20:00 +0000

Thanks Jonathan!

I think the key is teaching men how to speak the language of the heart and then connect with other men at the heart level. True accountability is leaning into the heart of another and drawing out what God has designed.

I think the discussion must start with changing our paradigm. I grew up in a paradigm where Christians were supposed to have it all together and so we hid behind masks and were not transparent at all. Doing accountability in this paradigm means at some level I am going to be trying to convince the other members of my “group” that I’m not broken and I have my behavior in order.

We must be gripped by the scandal of the Gospel that God loves us as we are. When we truly believe that, we are free to love ourselves and others and experience the kind of genuine, authentic community that God intends.

My good friend and author, Michael Warden, is going to do a guest post soon about men and the language of the heart. Be sure to check back and read his post.

Traylor

By: GG

GG — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 02:31:33 +0000

So did you talk to your Tonto’s today?

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